What do you do for a LIVING? WHY THIS CAN BE THE SCARIEST Question.
What other people think of me is none of my business. One of the highest places you can get to is being independent of the good opinions of other people.
Dear Magnificent Pretenders,
Why is it that we are so often stumped by the simple question of “What do you do?”
It’s as if we are all of a sudden under a magnifying glass and we now are expected to gauge if our life has value.
This question assumes that what we DO defines WHO WE ARE. I think there are better ways of asking someone how they spend their time.
More important, we need to define what we are really asking. Is it a title, status or a position that you want to hear about? Or about how much free time this person has on their hands? Somehow when asked, it seems that we all revert to the past, trying to place ourselves and each other into social hierarchies based on old, outdated measuring sticks.
Instead of hearing from others, “What do you do?” we hear, "How worthy are you?" Our minds instantly spring into trying to measure up to some unreachable standard so we can invent the best possible view of our current situation. We treat it like a litmus test of who we are.
When we are searching for the answer ourselves, we get this sort of performance anxiety that routinely leaves us feeling like we don't quite measure up. Should we portray a perfect veneer or say what’s truly happening in our lives? Really, whom are we fooling?
Many of us base our response on what we think the other person wants to hear, versus where we really are in life. I can't name how many times I've asked people what is currently stretching them, causing them to grow and evolve. Usually they’ll describe a job or something so larger than life, it’s hard to believe. They don’t mention what they’re doing currently, or describe where they are right now. It leaves me wondering what the real truth is that might never be acknowledged.
If we can’t look at ourselves with honesty and some sort of introspection, then how are we ever going to achieve the kind of lives that we’ve always dreamed of? I love this quote from Dr. Phil: “We can’t get the life we want if we don’t acknowledge the life we have.”
What do you do for a LIVING?
According to the dictionary, LIVING means to be alive, to thrive, to be vigorous and strong. Think about those words for a minute and the meaning they hold in your life. Are you living, or are you fooling yourself and others into thinking that you are?
If your answer to the question, “What do you do for a LIVING?” is about the job you currently “perform” and not about the life you live, then perhaps it’s time to fill your life with more of the things that will make you happy and fulfilled.
The greatest pleasure in life is when you are doing what you love most and sharing it with the world. This is when you have harmonized your authenticity, marrying your true nature with life around you.
When you naturally share your gifts, your life and your work in the world become one. At this point, “living” becomes a noun, which sustains you physically, emotionally, and monetarily.
Is it time to make some changes?
First, start by looking at where you are now, since you can’t change what you refuse to acknowledge. (Thanks, Dr. Phil!!)
Take OWNERSHIP of where you are.
Honesty is looking at your situation for what it is and accepting where you are. It is the first step in leading you where you want to be. It's the point where you can say, “I know who I am. I’m okay with where I've come from. I'm willing to embrace me.”
Everything that you have done up to this point has made you the person you are—every choice, every decision, every success, and every failure. It's time to accept and welcome that person into your loving acceptance, your IMPERFECT PERFECTION. After all, it is what makes you unique in the symphony of life.
Second, ask REAL questions to produce real answers. This takes introspection. In your current situation, examine your need to hide or escape into pretending your life is something else. What are you saying in order to fit in and gain approval from others? How many ways are you bending and stretching the truth in order to feel better about yourself?
Integrity is being true to WHO YOU ARE, and this radiates outward to others. It is realizing that your need to fit in may be prompting you to pretend who you are, saying and doing things that simply aren’t true. This is a huge indicator that your life is not as you wish it to be and that you must make changes to correct it.
Back to the question at hand, “What do you do for a LIVING?”
It’s not about a job, it’s about a LIFE. Jobs can give you happiness and fulfillment ONLY when they support you in living the life that you want to lead. For your purpose here is to thrive, not merely survive.
You came here to prosper and share your gifts with us. How will you accomplish this if you’re pretending to be someone else?
Dare to be your brilliant self! You are the only judge AND jury. Stop downplaying what you DO or thinking it’s not worthy of recognition. Isn’t it time to be authentic so that you can move into the life that you came here for?
That’s what the world has been waiting for! Whether you polish stones, pluck feathers or repair clocks, if you do it with the full essence of WHO YOU ARE, you transform what you are doing for a living into the life that you are. Then everyone benefits.
When you bring yourself fully into what you love to do, that’s when the real magic happens. The universe will respond in kind, and support you. All you need to do is be You!!
Are YOU Ready?
As you take each step I will be there reminding you of your Magnificence, and I will continue to do so, until you are able to see it in yourself.