Keep your thoughts positive, because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive, because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive, because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive, because your values become your destiny.
– Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi
Hello Magnificent Ones,
Probably you’ve all read the saying, "Be the change you want to see in the world,” and exclaimed “Yes!” out loud or to yourself.
Yet what's the point of tackling the world when you can't even handle what's happening in the four walls of your own home? In order for us to really be effective on a grander scale, we have to take a serious look at our own situations. It starts with us.
We get bombarded with messages that the real world is anywhere other than where we are now. In order to be really awesome, we must run out and help anyone who needs our aid in this mysterious place called “the world.”
The world is our piece of the universe where we live, with all the annoying family, friends, neighbors, and spouses in it. How can we think that we will be any more effective or believable in someone else's corner of the universe when we can’t even make peace with the ones in our own back yard?
Start where you are.
I’m starting with the man in the mirror. I’m asking him to change his ways. No message could have been any clearer. If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself, and then make a change.
Stop imagining that the call to change the world means you have to go somewhere. That's a glamorized Westernized version we cooked up as an excuse to buy a plane ticket.
Don't you feel it’s hypocritical of us to go to someone else's home and try to tell them how to do it better, only to go home to our own messed up chaotic situation in which we never took the time to settle?
Could you possibly see that the people around you are so lovingly placed there, so you can practice all the skills you need in order to become your very best self?
For a moment, just a moment, imagine that all of the family members and friends who press your buttons are actually there, forcing you to acquire the tools necessary to develop compassion, patience, courage, and fortitude. These traits then allow you to become better people not only for others, but for yourself.
Isn’t this the point?!
So in many ways, your family and friends are actually your teachers!
It’s only that this school stays open all day and night and you can take a class any time! All for free!
It all starts with you looking in the mirror and owning your piece of it. You can only change YOU.
It is crucial to realize that in owning your part, you also have the power to change the way you look at your situation. You never did have the power or right to change someone else, even though it was so much easier to see their faults or even blame them rather than yourself.
Anyone else who comes into our lives with any annoying traits after that will be seen differently, in a different light. You can see them now with gratitude for the teachers who they are. You won’t be affected in the same way because you’ve done the work. You’ve looked in the mirror and now see the world, your world, with new eyes.
This is the change.
You are now being the change you wanted to see. It was the only part you had power to change in the first place. This is what you can now take out into your world. The New You.
Which is you with a whole new perspective.
So, do you want to be the change? Start in your own home, in your own surroundings. This is your world.
When you take the time to clean up your own situations and bring the necessary clarity and peace to them, there will be no wars. At least not in your own space.
With this perspective, imagine what would happen from now on in each of our corners of the universe. Wouldn't that be a better place to start?
Are YOU Ready?
As you take each step I will be there reminding you of your Magnificence, and I will continue to do so, until you are able to see it in yourself.